The wound caused by fire will heal, but a scar left by tongue never, goes a famous Tamil saying.I committed two blunders which I regret. There was this man who helped me at the initial stages of struggle in Mumbai. Later he became my boss in the newspaper. One day, we had a heated argument. I am convinced I was right, but the words I used were not.
He refused to pass my voucher for the work on my off day.
“I am not begging. Just pay for my work,” I shouted in a nasty tone.
“But you once came begging for a job. Have gratitude,” he slapped back. Harsh words from both sides. I wish I was more mature.
There was another guy from Kolkata who had always been nice to me. We decided to start a weekly. Five of us joined and the project was going OK. But I got an offer from the Gulf and had to leave.
Quitting a cushy job after 17 years wasn’t easy and I was going through the blues. I could not talk to him properly and the misunderstanding grew.
My apologies failed to convince him.
Buddies, when you get angry, bite your lip, do not let the words out.
Oye, post sounds serious? OK, a joke.
Two boys reached a river. They wondered how to cross. Suddenly they saw their master sitting on a mango tree on the other side. “Boss, how do we reach the other side?” asked one. “You are on the other side,” came the reply. (Thanks Internet)
It's easy to want to give a quick reply but the words can hurt the other party. So, yes. Just grin and bear it. Harmony all round:)) Thanks for the reminder.
ReplyDeleteYou know famous saying are made because people rarely follow it.I have been trying to speak less and control me angers since I was in 6th grade i guess but it still is a distant dream:P
ReplyDeleteYou are right Ramesh :)
ReplyDeleteIts soooooooooooooo the truth :))))
ReplyDeleteU r very right, better to bite the tongue than regret later on
ReplyDeleteSerious post this time but a good one.
ReplyDeleteAdmission of mistake goes long way. If you have not done already, send the link this post to your ex-boss and the gentleman from Kolkatta. It is very difficult to admit own mistakes.
I would second A, if you are still in touch then so them the post.
ReplyDeleteSpoken or written words can never be taken back, no matter how much you repent. I have suffered myself from being outspoken.
ReplyDeletei jus had a guy who came 2 me repenting 4 his wrds he showered on me ..But i dnt knw wat 2 do dear ..and den i read ur post here..hmmm
ReplyDeleteoho.. true true my friend...spoken words are really bad. And so are written words, I hope you are not upset on me using the 'Madrasi' word in my last toon, it was just used for onomatopoeia of the name, nothing else.
ReplyDeleteSorry bolna.. aasan nahin hai..Sorry bolnae ke liye Himmat honi chahiye!.. he he.. Munna! Well done!
ReplyDeleteboss..
ReplyDeletethe tick showing 49?
happy birthday to u!!
happens... cant help it... better to keep quiet when angry
ReplyDeleteI have got many experiences like this!! But apologising for our mistakes is not easy, Ramesh. You have done that and the next step is to see that it reaches them.
ReplyDeleteEverybody seems to say the same here! All the best.
How true.though we tend to lose our balance at times.
ReplyDeleteYou have perfectly right but in my case when i am in a bad temper which is rare i loose my power of reasoning and go into combative mentality.:)
ReplyDeleteAnother saying is, "Speak in haste, repent at leisure", which is something we all do upon occassion. Despite your differences, you are gracious enough to overlook them in the name of retaining this friendship - I hope you contact your collegue, who knows - he may well be feeling exactly the same as you are, now!
ReplyDeleteif it had not happened at that time - it may surely would happen in some other point of time..
ReplyDeletebecoz without it - u are not going to be - the one - who you are, now..
ur intution and exsitence must thrive for the growth and at times it broke out the shell..
be happy - just thankful to the old friends - as they identified YOU..
Thats a super post!!!
ReplyDeletequite interesting :)
ReplyDeleteI agree, agree, agree...
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