Flexibility
is a word disappearing from my dictionary.
I find it difficult to adjust to new circumstances.
Even when I
reached parents’ home, I found it difficult. My dad was old and his only
entertainment was TV. The sad part was he was fond of Tamil serials. When
we talk of Tamil serials, the common dialogues you hear for years are, “I will
take revenge, you rascal,” “I will see to it that you beg on the roads,” “I
will make sure that you never hear the sounds of laughter at your home ever
again.”
A friend
invited me to stay at his house in Mumbai. At night, he shut all the windows
and doors and I found it claustrophobic.
When I stayed at a relative’s small apartment, the family woke up at
4.30am and put on loud spiritual music. After years of night duty, that early
morning time for me was one of blissful sleep and romantic dreams.
There’s nothing
to beat one host who was known to be stingy. He used a dim light at home to
save electricity even during late evening hours. When I was almost asleep around midnight, he
quietly walked across. I closed my face with a blanket thinking it was a ghost.
He silently switched off the fan and disappeared. I had to sweat it out until
his wife sneaked in, switched it on and disappeared as quietly as he
did. After all, she had adjusted with the “kanjus” (stingy guy) for years.
yup, with age it is difficult to adjust to new surroundings. More so, with kanjoos people.
ReplyDeleteyou are getting old yourself Ramesh and so are finding it tough to adjust anywhere apart from where you live. This happens to me all the time. After every holiday i feel a sense of relief coming back to the known comforts of my own space. just the age thing :)
ReplyDeletesujataji.am unable to reach yr blog despite repeated attmpts..hope theres a way out..
DeleteAtithi Devo Bhava.
ReplyDeleteI guess it is so with everyone these days..Home is our comfort zone.
ReplyDeletei can't believe someone really did that (switch off your fan)...heights!
ReplyDeleteAs much as we love our homes it will be want of comforts for our guests... I have never been comfortable anywhere other than our home, Mom's home and my Grandma's home. I guess that's the way with life.
ReplyDeleteHeights of "Kanjusness"....LOL
ReplyDeletehehe I always look forward to getting back home.
ReplyDeletelol...
ReplyDeleteso funny,, the kanjus guy ..
I bet I wud be pulling my hair with a host like that..
nice :: write up
I hope flexibility is missing from ur dictionary only, not from your character..
ReplyDeletethat kanjoos guy is a legend!!
ReplyDeleteDon't we all love our own space.But I know someone who I think would be a perfect host:)
ReplyDeleteIt seems Madrasis are a special breed but this holds ngood even with Marathis.
ReplyDeletewould be very uneasy to stay in such house.. NO doubt you had difficulty adjusting..
ReplyDeleteLOl.. Its always athithi devo bhava here :P
ReplyDeleteI think the older we become the less flexible we become in mind as well as body.
ReplyDeleteWhat you say is true.less flexibity and one more intolerance...
ReplyDeletePatience is the word that comes to mind when dealing with such people:)
ReplyDeleteOn the good side, atleast, the wife switched the fan on! :)
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