Thursday, September 3, 2009

Deadly subject

This story in the Indian media is no laughing matter, but sorry, it did make me giggle.
A jobless man had a tiff with his wife. He decided to end his life, drove his spouse out of the house and locked himself in. He switched on the LPG cylinder and threatened to set himself ablaze. A huge crowd gathered. The cops were summoned. The guy was in no mood to listen to anyone. The firemen thought opening the door would be dangerous. So the team enacted a drama. Everyone pulled out as if they had lost
interest. The crowds were asked to hide at a distance. A couple of cops hid near the door. Pin-drop silence. After a few minutes, the man decided to check out what was happening. He slowly opened the door.
That was enough time to pin him down. Guess what, the angry man bit a policeman in the scuffle. And he is facing legal action for that.
Suicides. What a deadly subject. I had a colleague in my newspaper who was ever smiling and was doing her PhD. Once I met her mom, I told her: “Your daughter is ever smiling.” After a few months, this girl got married. It was a grand wedding at the Sion area of Mumbai where we were served varieties of food. Less than two years into the marriage, trouble began. The wonderful girl continued to smile but something went amiss. One day we got the news that she had consumed poison and died. We friends went to her house for the funeral. The first thing that the mom told me: “You said my daughter is always smiling. See her now. Is she not smiling now?”
What a tragic moment! I could not stand there for another second.
Strangely, I feel like recollecting Mark Twain’s words: “The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.”

22 comments:

  1. Funny story indeed but suicide is a serious subject.
    The girl you mentioned who killed herself and was always smiling...I felt so sad for her. Some people do not dare to show or share their pain.

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  2. Thanks Ramesh for the lines from Mark Twain. Sad post.

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  3. I wonder how horrible the life would be for people who commit suicide! I mean who would not want such a beautiful blessing, life.

    The story of the girl is very sad :(

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  4. Sometimes we feel so sorry that we can't do anything about it.

    btw are there any cases of swine flu in sharjah/dubai.

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  5. This has made me sad now. I feel sad for those who feel the need to suicide. It must be such a bad feeling when a person thinks it over and then decides to take his life either because he feels life is not worth it or he is not worth it.

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  6. you started with a jovial note, and by the time i was done reading, i had goose pimples.

    i had a friend in college who committed suicide, stood in front of a running train!! i wonder what circumstances he cudnt face, when he cud very well face a train running into him.

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  7. it requires less efforts to make life beautiful than ending it...so live it fully...if someone is troubling you so much that u r feeling suicidal, then try s@rewing his happiness, but don't end ur life...it must have been really difficult for u to face the girl's parents ya..

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  8. life is a precious gift....one should enjoy the fullest and making a decision to end this forever is one of the hardest decision !!!

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  9. That's very sad....must be a very tough decision to make to escape from all the pains of life,who knows what they go through....

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  10. Sad sad sad. Somethings r jus so not wanted.

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  11. This is too much you are just deviating so much beyond your territory..I want the wit back

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  12. Ramesh...i have a guest blogger today in my blog...please extend your kind support like you always have ,thanks for being such a wonderful friend...have a great weekend .

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  13. I always perceive suicide an act of the coward. But this is my opinion. It is sad that your friend died like that! And lovely last words by Twain

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  14. suicide is a fool's endeavor....before saying so I need to see their circumstances..but even then taking ones own life can never be a solution to a problem...

    very nice and yes..sad analysis of this deadly matter

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  15. Very well-written post. Makes one think.

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  16. I don't really have a negative opinion on people who try to kill themselves. It's a personal choice really - they have their lives and they can choose to have enough of it when they please.

    Of course, the vital question is whether people are really done living their lives. There's a sitcom on Star World "Grey's Anatomy" which had an episode on a 80 yr old guy who was in a coma for many years and finally woke up wishing he was dead. He tried everything from not eating to eating stuff his body couldn't take to sitting in a chair and using all the energy of his body into saying "I'll be dead now"

    He doesn't die. He wants to because he's done living and everyone who was with him was gone with the exception of him. And then one fine day when hes ready to leave the hospital all dressed up, sitting in his bed by the window in the morning sunshine, he passes quietly away like a gentle breeze - sitting there just like that as if comtemplating back on his long lived life.

    Sometimes I think I've had enough of living and then I decide to wait just for a little while more and see if I indeed have had enough and sure enough something else comes through that makes me want to live for a really really really long time. :)

    Life never ends for some.

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  17. Well buddy, when I read the title "Deadly subject", I wondered what it might refer to?
    But as I read through, yes, 'suicide' is such a complex subject...

    Mark Twain's words are nice :)

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  18. I lost an aunt to suicide. It's a tragedy indeed.

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